Sunday, January 11, 2004
Well turns out it's not the battery which was my greatest fear - it looks like either the starter or starter cellnoid... *sigh* Repair shop can't help me til Monday - which figures right??? I have to be in court Monday morning at 8:30am to get the permanent restraining order against E.... My neighbor - the one that's been helping out so much around the house let me use his Jeep most of the day to get my errands run and get Deven to/from bowling... I am sooo greatful to these people and I just am not sure what to do to thank them... I sent over spagetti sauce w/garlic bread the day he did the flooring in the hall but I still wanna do something little to let them know how much I appreciate everything - any ideas??? So I got a new battery (now the guy that I bought it from did say someone got their monies worth from the old one so I probably needed one anyway) but once I got it in the car I still had the same problem... one click/VERY QUICK attempt of engine to turn and NOTHING.... Oh well - I have a warranty so hopefully the most it will cost is $150 total - just have to find that $$... BUT Deven had a wonderful time bowling this morning and even got a strike - I missed what his final scores were but he really enjoyed himself... Got a few errands ran, swapped out a circuit breaker the boys keep tripping - only to have it trip AGAIN!! Sooo might need to swap one more time for 30 instead of a 20 amp... And then the computer died... Man when it rains it POURS!!!!! BUT once I got to work and started talking to the ADP tech here on duty looks like it might not be that tragic - I will need to get a new hard drive for sure but it's minor problems overall - will just have to wait a few weeks - in the mean time I have the boys puter running with bare basics just to get online to check email, etc.... My GF w/the girls that the boys play with is loaning me her van for the week while mine gets fixed and I am gonna watch the girls a couple nights in exchange... I really am blessed with some wonderful friends - I know I will never repay all the kindness I have recieved but I plan on trying.... Not much else going on this weekend... it's frigid cold w/temps barely in the single digits but supposed to be slowly creeping upwards for the week to 30s -- only to have another cold snap AGAIN!!!! But things are fine otherwise... The county sheriff stopped by asking if we knew where E was so they could serve him the restraining order gave him the number of the friend he's supposed to be staying with.... Found out that even though the RO says parental rights/visitation as in the divorce but to be determined at final hearing I have a NO CONTACT order so he can't even call to talk to kids nor can he have a friend call for him.... Guess what he did this afternoon - had friend call and ask if he could talk to Deven... I told him according to the police no but hold on - I got Deven on phone, friend got E on phone - Deven listened for about 2 min if that - basically Deven said "uh huh" about 4 times and hung up... Asked him what Daddy said he said - "I don't know" and didn't want to talk about it... I am very tempted to ask for supervised visitation tomorrow... The boys have NOT asked about E this whole week plus... They have been in great spirits for the most part... Personally in my uneducated/knowledgeable, non-child psychologist mind that says VOLUMES about his relationship with the boys... I tried NOT to talk about E too much ESP not in a bad way - I am sure I have failed this task and made an occassional off hand comment but overall I am trying to be fair... I just don't know what to do.... I don't trust him to not poison Deven's mind and I have seen how he usually sets off/increases meltdowns/rages so I would almost rather NOT have him have the boys unsupervised, atleast right now... Of course he would find things to use against me if I went this route... I just don't know what to do... And it's all emotionally draining me.... I need to turn off my brain for now... Gonna finish my work here and try to get a little cap nap in since I didn't get much sleep today.... Til next time...
